8 Ways to Spot a Low-Key Mean Girl

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I’ve dealt with some pretty mean girls and mean boys before. Honestly I think that the worst ones are the ones who don’t know they’re mean.

I’ve met a few of these so far and after I stopped being friends with them, I felt like I wasted so much of time. So here is a list of things to look out for, so you don’t get stuck in a long term friendship with a Low-Key Mean Girl. Walk away from that. We don’t need those in our lives.

1. They claim to be “non-confrontational” which is why they never stick up for you. Loyalty is pretty high up on my list of friendship qualities. I don’t need someone to fight my battles for me, but if someone is spreading lies about me I do expect you to say something. Even when my best friend says something about someone else that is wrong, I will tell her she is wrong. that’s how rumours start.
2. They never say they’re forgetful…so you just assume they are. Why? Because no matter how many times you tell them something, they keep on insisting what they think is true…is true. For example, you tell them you have a sister, who they have met aa few times. they keep telling everyone and asking about your brother. Who doesn’t exist. It’s a simple example but applies to a lot of other things.
3. They throw you under the bus, but not in a major way. so it’s just funny…right? Think back to middle school, did she tell your crush you liked them, even though you swore her to secrecy? Here’s the real kicker, she did it because she thought it was funny. She is sure he took it as a joke too.
4. Secrets are NOT sacred. When you find out she told a secret, and you ask her about it. she whole heartedly believed she didn’t say anything to anyone about it. I’ve even brought receipts before, and she can still deny it.
5. She doesn’t have a lot of girl friends. I mean, maybe she has 1-2, but she doesn’t have any super close girl friends. She stresses to you that she is so happy to have met you, because she doesn’t have close girl friends. That’s pretty suspicious. I don’t have a super large group of close people myself, but I definitely have more than 10 good friends who are girls. Maybe she is just more comfortable around guys, which is perfectly okay too! However, most girls who don’t have a lot of girl friends usually don’t have them because they’re not good to them.
6. She tries to play ” Have you met…?” with you, even though she knows you’re in a relationship. She’s even met your S.O because it’s harmless…and she doesn’t understand why you think it’s a bit disrespectful to your relationship.
7. The biggest red flag that you have a low-key mean girl on your hand? You don’t particularly like spending time with her, and are low on energy after you do. You can’t put your finger on it because over all she can be a good person, but these little things are starting to add up into a big pile of disrespect.
8. They aren’t particularly helpful. For example, I’ve had a low-key mean girl take a blog photo for me before. When I went to look at the 40 she took, I noticed the angle gave me a double chin. When I brought that up she said, ” Yeah I know.” Very nonchalantly. Maybe this one is just a me thing though? I will always ask and check, and try to make my friends look amazing! I always give tips while shooting my models and friends. So this one did not make sense to me.

In a way I almost appreciate a Mean Girl more. They are mean right to your face. Low- Key Mean Girls? They just kind of claw at you and latch on with well manicured finger nails.

When you learn to recognize these tells in a person or even in yourself, that means you’re ready to move forward with your life. You don’t need that kind of negativity. they need you, because they see someone who is self confident and a good friend. But that’s why they usually throw low blows at you, “I love your new coat, BUT I would have a chosen a different colour. It makes you look a bit fat. hahaha joking!” It makes them feel better to drag you down their tunnel of Mean. Don’t go down the rabbit hole. Blaze your own path.