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The best secret I shared with someone after they were finally ready to move on after a break up, was to get an Ex-Box.
At first he was kind of confused because he already had an “X-box”. So I let him in a little secret. The first time someone broke my heart, I was devastated! So I did what every angsty 16 year old girl with a broken heart does; I obsessed over him. This of course was a huge mistake because he was a MAJOR douche bag. Well after we broke up, I had a bunch of stuff he had given me lying around so I took a shoe box and put all of that crap inside of it. I then buried the shoe box in the back of my closet.
Over the next few weeks, I would take the box out and cry over the contents. Then those trips became less frequent. After I met someone new, I forgot about the box. As time went on and many break ups came and went, I would add more stuff to the box.
It’s therapeutic because you don’t have to look at the content every day. Every time you revisit the box and look at these old memories, you notice how your feelings have changed. It shows a good progression.
Two years ago I got rid of the Ex-Box. I was cleaning my room, and it was one month into dating the Bae.
When I looked into the contents of the box, I felt nothing. This mini collection of memories from my past loves, became stationary items. They didn’t move, or sing to me like they used to before. It sort of felt like I had shoved a lot of random items into a box one day absentmindedly. I threw out all of the contents except for one Christmas letter from one boy. I kept it because we’re still good friends today, and the letter never made me sad. It just reminded me of what a good “relationship” it was. We never dated, but we had a lot of love there.
I didn’t need the Ex-Box anymore. I don’t think the Bae is ever going to be an ex. That’s the power of the Ex-Box. It lets you know when you are ready to settle down.
